Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Being Intentional

As we all know, life gets quite crazy at different seasons in our life. We can sometimes go days without talking to the people we care most about or even weeks. We all get swept up in the hustle and bustle of life. But I have learned that being intentional about the ones we care most about can make the world of difference. Even if it’s a quick text to tell someone you miss them and were thinking about them. 

I realize I have a long way to go with this whole being intentional thing, but I’m realizing how important it is to a relationship. I need it, you need it, we all need someone to be intentional towards us and the first step is being intentional to others. Being intentional is the act of taking the focus off yourself and letting someone else know that they are loved and cared for. Being intentional requires me to stop what I am doing and think about others. 

For instance, I try everyday to ask Jesse how work was and ask questions about his day. For me, that is a daily practice of being intentional with my husband. I know that he works hard for us and that what he does is important. And there are days that asking him how his day was would be the last thing I would want to do, but I know it’s a way that shows him that I care about what he says and appreciate what he does for our family. Relationships are deepened and enriched as two people support and lift one another up. Every one of us needs someone to cheer us on through life and as his wife, asking him about his job is a way I can do that.

These past few weeks it’s been great as I have learned to be more intentional about my loved ones. I feel like God is really working on my heart and showing me that no matter what condition a relationship is in God can fix it, our heart just has to be in the right place.
God has been showing me how blessed I am. I always told myself that I didn’t have many friends… but recently I feel like they have been crawling out of the wood work. Every relationship need that I have felt has been met this past month.  God has fulfilled those needs with so much more than I could have ever asked for. I realize I have believed a lie that people would just leave me or that no one really wanted a relationship with me, but God has been showed me that I am capable of being a good friend to others and that I have amazing friends in my life. 

How have you been intentional this week to the ones you care most about?
What do you think you can do to be more intentional?


Patience said...

I too struggle with this area of my life, but I started about a month ago asking about L's day and having conversations with him without being on my phone. It has been wonderful.

Sarah Hannon said...

Hey Lyr-
I just wanted to let you know that I order "love at last sight" and it came yesterday! I love it so much already! Only at day one but I feel like God has something bigger planned for the three relationships I picked.
Thanks for blogging about it :)

morgan823 said...

Great post!!! It's so easy to forget the small things like this (which actually are big things) when life gets busy!

Kari said...

Wow, just what I needed to read!
I sometimes ask how my husband's day went but then I dont listen like I should--and he can tell that and I know it bothers him.

I also need to try to be more interested in the things he's interested in. That's an area I've been trying to work on.

And as you mentioned, being "intentional" isn't confined to just a marriage relationship, although that would be the most important. I need to be more intentional in all my other relationships as well.
Great post!

The LaJeunesse Family said...

I heard this quote recently and loved it.

"To have great friends, you have to be one first."

And it goes right along with being intentional. Even if it's something small, you and I both know that means the most!!

Love you friend!

Renae said...

Great post! Kevin's easy enough to stay intentional with since I see him everyday, but I'm so bad with my friends. Thanks for challenging me to be more intentional :-)

very married said...

i'm going to blog about this tomorrow. (sorry for the spoiler) but i need to keep in contact with my family more. i called my dad because something bad had happened to me and needed to vent. i hadn't talked to him in over a week and in the meantime, his house caught on fire! if i hadn't have had that bad thing happen to me, i wouldn't have spoken to him for even longer!

ps. your comment on my hair post boosted my confidence so much :) so glad you thought it was funny!

Elizabeth said...

Such a great post, Lyr. I so agree with what you say that sometimes the last thing I want to do is to do such and such...but we sometimes have to make the effort if we want to make a relationship work. Love this post!

Katie said...

Thank you for your comment. I love your blog!! Thank you for being so honest when you write!! I love blogs that are heartfelt and real. You are blessing and helping so many!! What an amazing photgrapher you are. I could defiantly use some help. The dreadful photoshop is what I need help with (: Take Care!!