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After my quick chat on the phone with Lauren I gathered up my son and his belongings, knowing I could not just sit at the house and wait. My mind in a million different places, I was still being a terrible mother and completely forgot to pack extra diapers. I did however remember to bring a bottle so he did not starve. I got my pastor on the phone and started driving to where Lauren was living. My pastor (who had married us and knew that there was something going on with Jesse) had few words to say but knew my heart was breaking, so he just prayed for me.
I had no idea what to expect when I got to her house, but I felt I had a right to let the family that she was living with know what had just happened. The worst part in all of this was that the husband and wife of the family were like a brother and sister to me. (The family’s name has been changed to respect their privacy) I knocked on the door and Josh answered. I asked if Kelly (his wife) was there, but he said that she had just stepped out. I stayed outside on the front stoop and just broke down, spewing so much word vomit it would have made anyone sick. I didn’t go there with the intention of doing that and I probably said some things I shouldn’t have said about Lauren. Then again, my heart had just been ripped out of my chest.
Josh completely understood and was just as upset at the situation. I went there fearing the worst judgment of all from them since my husband had messed around with the girl living in their home. To my surprise it was the complete and opposite reaction - more understanding and empathy, than judgment and anger. Don’t misunderstand… He was pissed! He felt equally betrayed and taken advantage of. He and Kelly had been lied to, deceived and manipulated during this time, so it was just as much a heartbreak to to them as it was to me.
All of a sudden a million light bulbs were going off in Josh’s head. Things were finally making sense! All those trips to Walmart, all those outings to the movies by herself. So much made sense now. I told him about the meeting I set up with Lauren. He said he was going to talk to Kelly first and wanted to make sure all of us were at the meeting with Lauren later, so that they could mediate if necessary. I was completely ok with that, thanked him for listening, and went on my way.
The next person I wanted to see was my good friend Kerstin who had been walking this out with me. If anyone could understand what I was going through, it would be her. She is an amazing person who has truly taught me to love the Lord with all my heart (just like my mother-in-law) and to love my husband with the passion of Christ. She and her husband’s testimony is amazing story in itself, and is also a great story of God’s love and faithfulness… but that’s her story to tell. She had been counseling me through this process so I drove directly to her house. When I got there she was on her way out, so I arrived there just in the knick of time. All I had to do is pull up beside her and say, “He finally told me and it was her.” She got out of her car in tears and gave me a big hug and started praying for me. She had to go pick up her kids so I needed to let her go, but we promised to talk that night.
My next stop was my in-laws. I wanted to talk to my mother-in-law who had seen this happen in her own marriage, and maybe find some hope in all this craziness, but the only ones home were my father-in-law and sister-in-law. I walked in with Jayden and had tears running down my face. I said, “I wanted you guys to know that Jesse just admitted to having an affair and he wants a divorce.” His sister (bless her heart) said, “Who is she and where can I find her to kick her ass?” She was so angry at her brother and questioned why he would do this after watching their dad do it to their mom. On the other hand, I was puzzled about why my father-in-law showed little emotion. It didn’t even seem to faze him for one second. He didn’t even get up from the couch to give me a hug. I was so taken aback and completely hurt. Few words were spoken and I chose to leave. My sister-in-law gave me a big hug and said that it would be ok. It was nice of her to say, but things weren’t looking hopeful.
I was now on my way to where my family was all stationed. My brother and sister-in-law had just bought their new house that day. I had already called them to give them a heads up about what I had just found out, but I felt terrible driving there because the last thing I wanted to do was steal their joy on this great day of buying their first home. I can still remember that morning getting a text from Kate saying that they were finally home owners and how happy I was for them and hearing how happy they were. The last thing I wanted to do was rain on their parade.
When I got there my entire family was there along with my BFF. They were all very supportive and rightfully angry with Jesse and with what had just happened. We all gathered around in their new beautiful kitchen and pow-wowed about all the things that finally made sense. We talked about all the things we had questioned during these past 4 months and finally realized the truth about everything. It all made sense now. I stayed there until I was ready to go meet with Lauren. My mom offered to take Jayden so I didn’t have to worry about him not eating or being fussy. My BFF agreed to come with me so she could watch the family’s kids while we were all meeting together. By now I was in such a numb state, it looked like I was completely over it. In reality it was me just coping with all that had happened and all that was about to happen.
It was now time for me to speak to the woman that had stolen my husband’s heart…and I had no idea what to expect.
Come back for part three tomorrow…