Some of you may know that three years ago Jesse and I went through a very tough time in our marriage. I wrote what I could at the time about my first year of healing, but I wasn't even close to ready to dig deep into what God was really doing in me. Since then, God has done even more in our life and marriage than we could have ever expected. Though I always think there will be a need for more healing, we both believe that we have gotten to place in our marriage where we feel confident enough in our marriage and ourselves and more than ready to talk about our oh-so imperfect, hush-hush, too embarrassing to speak of, scandal of a life.
I have always looked at my blog as a place for me to unload and express myself as a “work in progress” (woman, christian, wife, mother, sister, daughter). I write about my struggles, my successes, my faith, my drive, my passions, my children and my family life. But a big part of who I am today is because of the whirl wind of a disaster that hit my family three years ago. Without having gone through that, I don't think I would be the woman I am today. I especially wouldn't be the wife and mother I am today. And we feel that it's time to tell our story.
Jesse and I have a heart for marriages. Not just our own and not just marriages that have been through infidelities, but marriages in general. We are seeing how often we allow our culture to define married life, instead of looking to what God and the Word tells us married life should be. We are seeing families destroyed because of our selfish nature and a desire to feed our flesh. Whether it is being involved in a full blown affair or to just occasionally watching porn. Our culture is not setting a very good example for future generations.
Our story is just one out of the thousands of couples that go through this daily. Did you know that infidelity affects one out of every 2.7 couples? (according to author Janis Spring who wrote After the Affair) That is a ridiculous amount and epidemic in my opinion!!!! That means it is more than likely that you have either gone through an affair or know someone who has. The sad part is there is such a strong taboo that causes people to be too ashamed to talk about their experience that many go through the whole process alone.
Because of the wonderful redeeming love of the Father and His faithfulness to our marriage and for sending His Son to die for all our sins and all the stupid thing we would do in our marriages; all month long Jesse and I will be sharing our story. We believe that without God we would not be together today. Without His mercy and grace we wouldn't have survived this heart breaking journey. Without the Father as an example of what it really means to love someone unconditionally, this marriage would have been doomed from the start.
Because marriage is such a passion for us, for the entire month of April (Starting April 4th) we want to give God glory for our marriage; as well as all other marriages out there, the marriages that are soon to come, marriages that are healthy and thriving, as well as the marriages that have gone through the ringer and come out better than ever. We also want to encourage marriages that are going through tough times right now, because we all do have those tough times... and we want you to not so quickly give up. Fight for your marriage!!! Fight for your history and the love you once had, because love doesn't just go away.
If you would like to be part of this journey and support what Jesse and I are doing, please grab “Our Love Redeeming Journey” button for this series to put on your blog. Even if it's just to pray for us while we do this. I already have a good amount of blog supporters that will be doing this along with us, but we can always have more people out there standing up for marriages! We also want to see what God is doing in your marriages, so blog about that if you feel led.
If you are jumping on board, comment or email me to let me know and I will have a page up soon of all blogs that are joining us. We are excited that God has brought us this far and we believe that God has so much in store, not just for our marriage/relationship, but yours too. Be prepared for some brutal honesty and unnerving realities and the ultimate REDEEMING LOVE of God!